Everybody wants to be connected. Be part of something. In order for connection to appear we need to be seen. Truly seen for what we are. But most of us don’t like who we are and keep asking themselves – am I good enough?
People who are connected and are part of something see themselves truly for who they are. They believe they are worth of love and belonging. They have sense of worthiness and are as a result they are wholehearted people. Connected people have courage to be imperfect, they treat themselves with compassion and kindness. They create connection as a result of being authentic. They are willing to let go of who they think they were in order to be who they really are and that allows that deep connection to happen. They fully embraced vulnerability – what made them vulnerable makes them also beautiful. Being authentic is not comfortable but not excruciating. It is just necessary.
Willingness to say I love you first, do something without guarantees, invest in a relationship that may or may not work out – that is fundamental to live authentic lives. To control and predict everything is not the way to live a vulnerable life.
Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and struggle for worthiness but it appears also to be a birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging and love.
What are we doing with vulnerability? Why do we struggle with it so much?
Because we numb vulnerability. It is difficult having to ask husband for help, being turn down, asking someone out. We don’t want to be rejected, judged and seen for who we really are. We live in more and more vulnerable world. We are the most in debt, obese, addicted and medicated society in all history.
Vulnerability is not comfortable so we numb it. The problem is that you cannot selectively numb emotions such as fear, shame, vulnerability, disappointment. Numbing those you also numb other feelings and emotions such as joy, gratitude, happiness. Then we are miserable and we are looking for a purpose and meaning in life and we fall into a dangerous cycle. We need to numb ourselves more and more.
How do we numb? We make everything that is uncertain – certain. The more vulnerable we are the more afraid we are the more we want things to be certain. We perfect – our lives, our relationships, our children, ourselves. We pretend – that what we do does not have an effect on people and environment. We pretend to be somebody we are not.
The answer is to let ourselves be seen, deeply seen. The answer is to sometimes be vulnerable. To love with our whole hearts even when there is no guarantee. To practice gratitude and joy in the difficult moments of life and believe that we are enough.
Vulnerable means I am a life.
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